Is being faithful hard?
Its typical for most of us to talk about relationship issues but i've come to realize that no single relationship topic is groundbreaking but there are stuffs we think about and don't like to discuss because the conversation is usually uncomfortable. One of these question is - is being faithful hard?
Have you asked your partner if they've always been faithful or their thoughts on cheating? For clarity l'm not only talking about physical encounters as most people will think. However, most infidelities don't leap to the physical point. So what about all those missteps you took on your way there.
What about all those indiscretion you ignored,overlooked, or somehow excused until the inevitable? You know the type: the extra Dm on twitter,the inappropriate 'Like' on a facebook picture you had no business viewing in the first place, or the "hey,how have you been?" message to an ex even though you are in a new relationship.Then there is reality; the extra flirtatious laugh,touch or suggestion you give or overlook from a person of interest.
You know your respective statuses so instead you entice each other playfully at first until that invisible line between flirtatiously innocent suggestions and outright deceitful actions blurs beyond recognitionn What then?
When I posed the question to my friends, most of them responded that being faithful is easy. This is an interesting theory. So are those who are faithful relatively stronger than those who are not? If yes, what makes them so strong? Is it a strong moral resolve? code? ethics? or is once a cheated always a cheated true? I think it is important to identify the true cause in order to successfully address the issue rather than make blanket and dismissive statement.
Further,it may help to determine is it harder to be faithful than it is to cheat? Do men or women have it harder or easier? Is cheating more about avoiding situations that can lead to infidelity or having the strength to resist all opportunities real or imagined?