I've spent the last 27 years
of my life in India, lived in three small towns, two major cities, and I've had
several experiences. When I was seven, a private tutor who used to come home to
teach me mathematics molested me. He would put his hand up my skirt. He put his
hand up my skirt and told me he knew how to make me feel good. At 17, a boy
from my high school circulated an email detailing all the sexually aggressive
things he could do to me because I didn't pay attention to him. At 19, I helped
a friend whose parents had forcefully married her to an older man escape an
abusive marriage. At 21,
when my friend and I were walking down the road one
afternoon, a man pulled down his pants and masturbated in front of us. We called
people for help, and nobody came. At 25, when I was walking home one evening,
two men on a motorcycle attacked me. I spent two nights in the hospital
recovering
from trauma and injuries -
Meera Vijayaan
Conor first physically
attacked me five days before our wedding. It was 7 a.m. I still had on my
nightgown. I was working on my computer trying to finish a freelance writing
assignment, and I got frustrated, and Conor used my anger as an excuse to put
both of his hands around my
neck and to squeeze so
tightly that I could not breathe or scream, and he used the chokehold to hit my
head repeatedly against the wall. Five days later, the ten bruises on my neck
had just faded, and I put on my mother's wedding dress, and I married him -
leslie Morgan Steiner.
In December 2012, a young girl, a 23-year-old student, boarded a bus
in Delhi with her male friend. There were six men on the bus, young men who you
might encounter every day in India, and the chilling
account of what followed was played over and over again in the Indian and
international media. This girl was raped repeatedly, forcefully penetrated with
a blunt rod, beaten, bitten, and left to die. Her friend was gagged, attacked,
and knocked unconscious. She died on the 29th of December.
Domestic/gender violence and
abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused, or
denied. This is especially true when the abuse is psychological, rather than physical.
Noticing and acknowledging the signs of anabusive relationship is the
first step to ending it. No one should live in fear of the person they love.Domestic
violence should not happen to anybody. Ever. Period. But it does - and when it
does, there is help. Maybe you have lived with abuse, maybe it happened just
once; maybe you work or live next to someone who is being abused right now.
Abuse thrives only in
silence. You have the power to end domestic violence simply by shining a spotlight
on it. Victims need everyone. They need every one of us to understand the
secrets of domestic violence. Show abuse the light of day by talking about it
with your children, your coworkers, your friends and family. Recast survivors
as wonderful, lovable people with full futures. Recognize the early signs of
violence and conscientiously intervene, deescalate it, show victims a safe way
out.
Together we can make our
beds, our dinner tables and our families the safe and peaceful oasis they
should be.
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Oh mehnnnnnn....I dunno what to say mami....the second paragraph??!......Naaaa...the evil that men do?...Jesus Christ!
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DeleteDomestic Violence is so wrong on every level!!!
ReplyDeleteBest wishes with your exams.
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fanks lv
DeleteSome people are unbelievably creepy and evil. How one can do that to another is beyond comprehension? This problems should never be overlooked - all these abusers need to be punished
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Deleteyes they should be and we need stringent laws against domestic violence in this country.. fanks for dropping by
DeleteAnd this is the world we live in.* Sighs*
ReplyDeleteThree Things a Lady Shouldn't Let a Man do to Her
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