There comes a point in your life when you are officially an adult. Suddenly you are old enough to vote,drink and engage in other adult activities. Suddenly people expect you to be responsible. As grown-ups we get taller, we get older,but do ever really grow up?Imagine you coming back from work, someone told you that all of the old traffic laws had changed forever: Red no longer meant stop and green no longer meant go. In fact, all of the signs that used to guide you were no longer valid. The old laws were gone but the new laws were yet to be written.
How would you feel and what would you think as you set out for home? Often, change happens just like that. It’s sudden, it’s quick and it disrupts our equilibrium. Whether it’s the unforeseen sale
of a company, the sudden loss of a job or the unexpected loss of a loved one, the world you once knew is gone, and it’s difficult to know whatsoever to do next. It’s frightening, because one
way we survive is by being able to predict our environment and acting accordingly. When
predictability disappears, so too does our sense of safety.
In this way, change can trigger our most basic surival instincts, and even when physical survival is not an issue, it can feel as if it is
whenever things change. This is why change is so difficult
Our known existence, whether we
liked it or not, is replaced by an unknown one,and we become fearful and disoriented, not
knowing where to turn next to find the comfort and safety we seek. Here are four tips for dealing with sudden change.
1.whatever you feel is ok. change may stir up a host of emotions, including sadness, fear and anger. There are no rules on what anyone
should feel, but everyone should feel something. If not, then emotions may be lurking beneath the surface of one’s awareness and make their presence known at the worst possible moment, perhaps emerging as an unintended sharp word or fit of anger.
2.Mourn first, then move on. In a similar vein, it’s important to mourn and move on when unwanted change hits, and in that order.
3. Demand perfect effort, not perfect results. Often, change comes in bursts, as one change
begets another. This can feel overwhelming,especially to those who weren’t involved in planning the change or otherwise didn’t see it coming. To them, change can feel particularly risky or threatening. To help reduce anxiety,leaders should demand maximum effort in
response to the change, but not perfect results. Not all of your change initiatives will turnout exactly as planned.
4. Break long-term change down into doable chunks.
In some ways we grow up, we have families,we get married, we get divorced. But for the most part we still have thesame problems that we did when we were 15. No matter how much we get taller, grow older, we are still forever stumbling,forever wondering, forever young.